Let Me Be Honest With You
I chose my heels first. Then my outfit. Never the other way around.
Alexandra Iff is a dark romance and reverse harem author publishing in English and German since 2012. She writes villains, antiheroes, and women who don’t apologise. She also never leaves the house in flats if she can help it.
This is a post about heels. It belongs here because heels are part of who I am — and who I am is in every book I write.
Why I Wear Them
Height. I love the feeling of being tall. It gives me a strange, specific kind of authority that I have no interest in analysing too deeply. It works. That’s enough.
Legs. Don’t judge. Just let me live my life believing they look longer. They do. Moving on.
Visibility. There is something deeply satisfying about walking through a room and being able to see over everything — and everyone — in it.
Confidence. Every time heels enhance an outfit, something shifts. Head up, shoulders back, walk changes. It’s not vanity. It’s armour.
Feeling like a woman. Full stop.
And if you need it substantiated by science: according to Dr Ed Morrison, psychology lecturer at the University of Plymouth, wearing high heels changes the way a woman walks in a way that reads as more feminine and more attractive to both men and women. His research suggests women aren’t consciously aware of it — they just notice they get more attention, and they keep wearing them.
There you go. Backed by research.
How to Actually Walk in Them
Because wearing heels and walking in heels are two very different things.
What I learned at fifteen — don’t ask me where, I certainly wasn’t wearing heels yet — is this: slightly exaggerate the sway in your hips and you’re doing it right.
The full technique:
Put them on. Balance a book on your head. I did this. It works. It forces your body straight, like being pulled upward by a string.
Take small steps. Heel to floor first, then the balls of your feet. Once your weight shifts to the balls, push the hip forward for the next step.
Think runway. That pronounced hip sway you see on models isn’t an affectation — it’s the correct mechanics of walking in heels. Copy it without shame.
It takes less practice than you think. Like driving — once the reflex takes over, you stop thinking about it.
For more inspiration, my Sexy Heels Pinterest board has been running for years.
And if you like your heroines the way I like my shoes — high-impact, unapologetic, and always in control — start with my books here.
Alexandra Iff is a dark romance and reverse harem author since 2012. Creator of the Reverse Harem Advent Calendar (est. 2016) and the Dark Romance Author Cartel.